LETS TALK ABOUT SEX!

As soon as the word sex is used in a headline, eyes either go straight towards it or they start to roll in judgment. The truth is sex is just part of life. In fact, it’s responsible for all our lives. However, due to all our early training, sex has taken on a negative connotation for many in our society. Sex has become such a forbidden topic in so many lives that it has truly messed up a lot of lives.

In my EFT practice, I’ve been seeing people for years who have “issues” about sex. It’s surprising how many people have been traumatized to the point that some are still virgins well into their 40's and even into their 50's. It’s usually because of their earliest training and experiences that somehow conveyed to them that sex was either unsafe or “bad.” These beliefs tend to get embedded within our subconscious minds and hold on tenaciously, regardless of what we may consciously come to understand to the contrary. The question arises, “How do we change these negative beliefs when we don’t even want to talk about them?”

Well, the beautiful thing about EFT is it doesn’t require any “talk therapy” to get to the bottom of the problem or understand it. With EFT, all you do is acknowledge whatever is going on in your life that is negative and tap on the meridian access points until it’s gone. Sounds too simple, doesn’t it? Yet, it works exactly like that.

For instance, if someone is still a virgin at an advanced age and no longer wants to remain one, you might think that would be a relatively easy thing to overcome. Just find a willing partner and embrace. Simple, right? Not necessarily so.

But with EFT, all that’s needed to be said while tapping is:

“Even though I’m still very much afraid because of what I was told as a child, I love and accept myself nonetheless.”

“Even though I’m embarrassed to still be a virgin at 50, I love and accept myself anyway.”

“Even though I’m afraid I won’t know what to do if I’m given the chance, I accept myself anyway.”

“I’m not sure I can go through with it, yet I love and accept myself nonetheless.”

“Even though I’m afraid I won’t be able to “take the pain” of it when it happens, I love and accept myself nonetheless.”

“I’m afraid to even tell anyone I’m still a virgin for fear they’ll laugh at me, yet I love and accept myself fully and completely nonetheless.”

What this does for you is eliminate the fears surrounding being a virgin and the fears of trying to do something very personal at an advanced age and not knowing exactly what to do or how to do it. When those fears are eliminated, the act of making love is relatively easy and effortless. It was the mind’s “wall” that stopped the person in the first place.

Another instance is when someone has been sexually abused at an early age. When this happens, especially when it involves parents, siblings and close relatives, a sense of distrust starts to overtake the individual and it often insidiously seeps into every aspect of their lives. After awhile, they find they can no longer trust anyone and cannot form close personal relationships for any period of time. In situations like this, we can use wording such as:

“Even though I know something was done to me at an early age, I don’t know exactly what it was or by whom and it still makes me very uncomfortable and I feel that I can’t accept myself, I love and accept myself anyway.”

“Even though I can’t trust anyone anymore, I love and accept myself.”

“Even though I won’t trust anyone because I’m afraid I will be betrayed again, I love and accept myself nonetheless.”

“If you can’t trust your father (brother, sister, uncle, etc.) who can you trust in life? Yet, I love and accept myself to the best of my ability nonetheless.”

When people come and say that they have certain urges that they can barely control, or urges that would likely get them into trouble if they acted upon them, it is very important to resolve the issues quickly. Again, whenever we address this type of issue, we primarily acknowledge whatever it is and say we love and accept our self anyway. This is an important aspect of the Setup because it verifies to the Subconscious mind that regardless of whatever urges one may have, it is still loved and accepted nonetheless. This can be vastly important because people often feel a great deal of guilt associated with these aberrant urges and feel they’re all alone in the world to cope with them. We use words to the effect of:

“Even though I have these urges that I can barely control, I love and accept myself anyway.”

“Even though I know I shouldn’t have these urges, I can’t stop them from coming into my mind. Yet I love and accept myself no matter what happens.”

“I don’t know why I feel like this, but I hate myself for having these feelings. Yet, I love and accept myself nonetheless.”

“I’m really afraid I can’t control these feelings within me any longer and I’m afraid of what could happen if they start to take me over and control me. Yet I love and accept myself anyway.”

“I’m really afraid of my feelings, but I’m even more afraid of going to jail if I ever acted upon any of them. Yet I love and accept myself fully and completely.”

By acknowledging the fearful feelings and the seemingly uncontrollable feelings within yourself, you immediately start to release them and eliminate them. It’s the forbidden aspects of them that gives them power in the first place and by openly acknowledging them for what they are, that power is withdrawn from them. When you add the tapping on the meridian points, it usually collapses the entire issue quickly and easily.

These are just a few of the sexual issues that can effectively be addressed using EFT in a simple and easy format. You may choose to use the wordings set forth above to tap yourself through the issues mentioned, however, make sure you’re completely familiar with EFT and all the points beforehand so you know how to get yourself out of an issue once you’ve accessed it.
Otherwise, you could find yourself immersed in the issue that’s been raised and not know how to extricate yourself. If that should happen, the best thing to do is say words to the effect of “The scene fades” repeatedly until it does fade and then go back to focusing upon your breathing.

If you find that the issue you’re working on isn’t changing for you, go to YouTube.com and visit my “Resistance to Change” video by searching “EFT Resistance” and tap along with it a few times and watch how much easier it is to change things in your life.

If any of the issues mentioned trigger unresolved feelings within you that you finally feel its time to address, feel free to contact me at ted@tedrobinson.com or call at 516-248-5346. It’s not necessary to live with “those feelings” any longer. You can find peace of mind again. Remember, keep tapping.