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<<CLICK HERE TO SEE PRINTABLE VIEW>> To do EFT, first determine what emotion is predominant (up) at the time (i.e., anger, grief, shame, fear, etc.) and set a SUDS (Subjective Understanding of Distress Scale) of between 1-10 on it (ten is the highest). This is a subjective number. Simply use the first number that comes to mind. Then, remember the number and start to address the issue using the technique as follows: THE SET-UP Many times, people object to saying something negative to their subconscious mind, fearing that it will seize upon the negative thought and internalize it. That is not the case with EFT. This is the only negative affirmation technique we know of today, however, it should not be a problem. This is because you are simultaneously tapping the access points and eliminating the blockage in the meridians that caused the negativity. By doing this, you are neutralizing the negative thought rather than infusing it. By saying this, we are doing a couple of important things. First, we acknowledge that we are angry. Second, we tell the subconscious mind that, although it is angry (remember, emotions such as anger reside in the subconscious) the conscious mind (which is saying the words) “accepts” it and “loves” it. Can you imagine the relief of the subconscious mind, which is only about 3-4 years of age on an emotional level, hearing that although it's being “bad” by being angry, it is accepted nonetheless by the “mature” conscious side of the mind? That, in and of itself, is a very valuable and profound change of the relationship between the conscious and subconscious parts of the mind. Relief starts immediately. Some people can't say they love themselves, usually because they are their own harshest critic. If this happens, simply have them say, “Even though I don't love myself, I accept myself nonetheless.” They can also say, “Even though I can't say I love myself, I'm still OK.” This will usually resolve the issue immediately.
"Even though I feel so stressed out because of that phone call I just received, I deeply and completely love and accept myself." You should then repeat the same words or some close variation two more times for a total of three verses while constantly "tapping" the (KC) point the entire time.
GENERAL ISSUES When you have a more generalized issue, you rub either of the "sore spots" clockwise, one at a time, starting with the right side saying: "Even though I feel stressed out, but don’t know exactly why, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
We find that the wording of the “set-up” is THE MOST important aspect of the technique. If you get the wording exactly right, the technique works very effectively, profoundly and quickly. If you don't get the exact right words, it still works to some degree, but not quite as well. There is actually a knack to getting the right wording that comes with time and experience. We’ve noticed that after awhile, a sixth sense arises as to how to formulate the words to address the underlying issues. However, the way to “get the knack” right away is to experiment with different versions of what you intend to resolve. Try all kinds of words that sound similar or mean the same thing as the issue you intend to deal with and you'll be surprised at the affect it has on you and your client. It should be remembered that you are effectively “talking” to the subconscious mind which is emotionally like that of a 3-4 year old. You don't want to use large or complex words or concepts. Use words that you would use when talking to yourself. Try every variation of the words and phrases you can think of and use a run on sentence if you want until you achieve relief. Some people who have been raised in a foreign country or who have spoken a foreign language during their early years may be better off using that language to “speak to themselves” during this process. This is especially so if you or your client thinks in that foreign language and then translates to English in order to speak. Sometimes we have instructed people we are working with to actually translate the words we are using into their native tongue and repeat them to themselves out loud. This appears to work better than hoping their “3-4 year old” subconscious mind will translate on its own after hearing our words. You may also want to incorporate harsh or curse words if you speak to yourself that way. Although this sounds odd, it has proven effective a number of times when nothing else has worked. There is also another purpose in doing this “set-up” before the rest of the points are touched. The “set-up” corrects what is called a psychological reversal before you begin tapping the rest of the access points. This is done because sometimes your “energy” can be reversed and you will never know about it until you find that your tapping isn’t working. A good example is when nothing is going right for you and you're dropping things and falling down all over the place regardless of how careful you think you're being. Or, you just can't think straight about anything. Those are times when you are likely to be “reversed” in your energy channels and you need to have it corrected. The “set-up” described above will automatically reverse your energy reversal and put you back on track so that the tapping will work for you. You need not worry about reversing your energy if you are already ok, since you can’t do this part wrong because it only works if you are already reversed. Another reason for the “set-up” is that it effectively converses between the conscious and subconscious mind. In essence, one part of you is saying to the other part of you that “Even though I feel guilty (for something I’ve done wrong), I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” We believe this is your conscious mind saying to your 3-4 year old subconscious mind that “Despite the fact that you're feeling guilty (which it judges to be totally wrong for its infantile behavior), I will accept and love you anyway.” When the emotional subconscious mind hears this, it can sometimes become overjoyed knowing its being accepted just as it is and is no longer being looked down upon by the conscious mind. It is more than happy to finally be freed from that condescension and judgment of the conscious mind. Once that is done, the subconscious mind is then ready, willing and able to change dramatically in short order using the tapping. Now, we don't want to give you the idea that this “really” happens just this way. It is meant in a metaphorical sense to assist you in gaining a better understanding of how we perceive it happens in your mind and body. There is no research to support this particular explanation. It’s just how it appears to us as we watch people finally “hearing” that they are loveable and acceptable to themselves no matter what they may have done. It's sometimes surprising to see how many people have their biggest challenge saying they “love and accept” themselves. They just don't believe it after a lifetime of contrary experiences. But its important to know that you don't have to believe it to say it and allow your subconscious to hear it. Its just amazing how willing the subconscious is to hear and believe something of this nature. Quite simply, from our point of view, it just wants to be accepted and loved. Perhaps that's one of the reasons this all works so well. THE APEX EFFECT Many people find that because EFT relieves them of their problems so quickly and effectively, their logical, conscious mind, cannot accept it as being the reason for their relief. They often attribute the most bizarre reasons for their immediate success. It's best to advise them in advance that EFT is often fast acting and very effective and they should not be surprised if it should happen to them. (At the same time, tell them that persistence is the best way to achieve the best overall results for chronic conditions.) You may remind them that they may start imagining reasons for their success, other than EFT, but the truth is that EFT can be very effective - very quickly - most of the time. ‡ NEXT |
Repeat that phrase or something close to it (some variation can be a good thing in this type of “set-up”) two more times, while alternately rubbing the “sore spots” (Figure #2) continuously with the first two fingers of the opposing hand. It should be noted that there are two (2) sore spots, even though only one is shown in Figure #2. The way you find them is to feel approximately 2” down from the collarbone and 3” from the center of your chest. Rub until you find the particular spot that is usually sore on each side. Rub the right side first, then the left, and return to the right side.
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