Blessings to all on this beautiful day.
Many people ask us, "How do I deal with a person
who did something (bad) to me?"
How can we change others when most don’t see the
world the way we see it. We can’t. However, we
can change how we react to the experiences "flung"
at us by others. To maintain peace within is the
answer. It is up to us to stay in that place of peace
and choose it above all else - no matter what.
One way is to begin changing your own mind and
your thoughts consciously to thoughts of peace, love
and gratitude. Take responsibility for what shows up
in your life. How, you might ask, do I do that? Well,
you can start by thanking or blessing the person you
feel just wronged you. Instead of ranting and raving
in your usual fashion, you can begin by saying to
yourself inwardly, or if in a car you can say it out
loud: "Thank you. Blessings to you. God bless you or
thank you God." By doing this short exercise
consistently you first off are acknowledging that the
other person has just "triggered" you and it gives you
the opportunity to reflect on what triggered you and
as a result you can change it. Then, by blessing
them, you are acknowledging that they were just
doing the best they could and you will find that you
begin to feel a sense of connection and eventually
oneness with the other party instead of the
separation, pain and difference you feel when you
lash out at others. You will also begin to feel no
longer dishonored when something that you used to
think was very bad happens. Perhaps you may say
to yourself, "Wow!! There they go again," more from
an observing loving place than a victim's perspective.
It may take awhile to embrace this approach, but we
can guarantee it is helpful. On the other hand, you
may feel the shift in your mind immediately. Either
way, it works - if you practice it.
At first, it may seem a bit alien, but stay with it and
thank them as they go by or thank God each time
something happens and things will start to change
almost immediately. The moment you see it
differently, is the very moment it starts to no longer
have to show up in your life any longer. In effect,
you can consciously change your life. Try it, you’ll
like it. We promise.
Love and light,
Ted and Maria
